Polite Lies has ratings and 46 reviews. Daniel said: I loved Kyoko Mori’s commitment to honesty, even when that meant blackening the eyes of people i. Mori–who was 12 when she lost her mother to suicide–sees that death as a rejection of the polite lie of marital harmony and stability. Polite Lies. On being a Woman Caught Between Cultures. Kyoko Mori “Mori’s observations about lies and their consequences build to a powerful effect.

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Polite lies can be our defense against I loved Kyoko Mori’s commitment to honesty, lyoko when that meant blackening the eyes of people in her family. The Woman’s Retreat Book. It can be freedom, but it always comes with a price. Not a good time to read a depressing book by someone who is caught between two cultures, had a sad childhood rich with ambivalent feelings toward her father and stepmotherfelt alone even from her brother, etc.

Her quiet prose seems to reflect the discipline of her personal belief system; it’s as if the stoicism she was raised to practice in her behavior and thoughts is embedded even in her writing style.

Polite Lies

Jul 21, Edith rated it it was amazing Shelves: Lues first read Kyoko Mori’s A Dream of Water my freshman year of college four years ago and was struck by how beautifully she writes. Published April 6th by Ballantine Books first published Just a moment while we sign you in to your Goodreads account.


Jan 23, Sgilbert rated it it was amazing. For this Japan lover, it was eye-opening.

Polite Lies: On Being a Woman Caught Between Cultures

Want to Read Currently Reading Read. Whenever I think of the coast of Nagasaki, I feel at home. I often felt that she judged others and their choices as poorer than her own, that she is on the right and she is enlightened often, I could add here “by the West”.

Since he was still feeling ill, he finally returned to the U. This is a woman with an intelligent, open mind and a searching, questioning spirit. In this powerful, exquisitely crafted book, Kyoko Mori delves into her dual heritage with a rare honesty that is both graceful and stirring. Mori cannot be effective if she is not cruel. To be fair, she criticizes America too, but she leaves the reader with a feeling that Japan is this somewhat crazy place where all the men are incredibly patriarchal and the women submissive.

I read Polite Lies today, in two sittings. She really loses me when she starts airing out the 25 year-old dirty laundry between her step-mother and herself. Mori, Japanese-born but now an American citizen, compares various aspects of femininity and social expectations in both countries.

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It gives poliet sense of legitimacy to things that are happening around us Mori–who was 12 when she lost her mother to suicide–sees that death as a rejection of the polite lie of marital harmony and stability. Do we really need page after page about these scuffles with your mother? For herself, unable to decide on kyoo way of life that didn’t involve compromise, the author chose divorce: Kyoko’s take on life in the midwest brought me home to my origins in Wis This is a beautifully crafted series of essays, linked in a lovely way.


Making Peace with God. We should listen to the other side of the story…enough polite lies. I subjected my mom, my friends, and my entire facebook circle to multiple quotes and almost cried a couple of times. Books by Kyoko Mori.

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She was forthcoming and not very kind about rules, expectations and impossible standards women are expected to follow. This is an autobiography Kkyoko stole from someone else’s list, because I find Japanese culture fascinating.

Yes, Japan is a very patriarchal country. Mori spent the first 20 years of her life in Japan and the last 20 in the midwestern US where she lives currently, and has only made a few short visits polkte to Japan.

Even if the reader doesn’t necessarily agree with each point, Mori expresses herself well enough to make the collection well moir the read. View all 6 comments. Let it Go and Grow.